The Pursuit of.....

So I've had some interesting man conversations over the past few weeks. Let's start with man #--well I've lost count.

 

So I ruh into this seemingly nice man online who happens to be from my town. We chat for a couple of days and then decide, "yeah, lets meet for coffee" We are both pleasant enough to look at and he assures me he has all his teeth. So then the day before we are going to meet he says to me, "it doesn't bother you that I'm married?" My jaw dropped open and then I began to laugh. I said back to him, "yes it does bother me, you should have told me sooner, nice knowing you."  Another one bites the dust.

 

On to the next one.....another online meeting. Once again with a guy from my own town. This one may take a little longer to talk about. Maybe I can sum it up quickly. This is a Christian man who wants nothing to do with organized religion because he used to be a deacon and once had to fire a pastor. So? As my former pastor would have said, "build a bridge and get over it." I told him that it is important for me to date a man who is a church goer. I don't compromise my morals and principals for the sake of a date. So then we talk about our health issues. I'll accept his, he accepts mine. However, EVERY conversation he has to talk about how much he likes to kiss and cuddle and snuggle and give back rubs and foot massages and when are we going out for coffee, when are you coming over to play Scrabble and more talk about kissing and holding hands and blah blah blah. Hey I'm sure I like to kiss and snuggle as much as the next person but come on. It's such a turn off to me when a Christian man talks about physical stuff. Especially when he talks about it ALL THE TIME. If I were sitting across the table from him the only thing I would be thinking of is he is probably imagining giving me a foot massage and cuddling with me on the couch. No thank you. I'm not a prude, I'm just not giving my cuddles away to just anyone.

 

So here are two more cases that I can report on in my book, "The Joy of Singleness" :-)

 

I just want a nice Christian man who will go to church with me, open my car door, take my arm as we walk, who has a job, who likes cats,  baseball, movies, dining out, and having nice, wholesome conversation. And it would help if he was good looking too! LOL

The Time Has Come

OK, it happened again. This time it was the last straw. Or maybe next to the last. For several years now I have known of something the good Lord wants me to do. I've tried to do it, but never quite made it. This time I am determined. What the heck is she talking about you ask? Well I'll tell you.

First of all let me say I have absolutely no problem whatsoever with couples. What I have problems with is how couples treat singles. I have spent most of my adult life watching couples go out together after church to dine out. I can count on one hand how many times I have been included. I know, it's just their nature to go and do together. But I have observed I'm not the only single person this happens to. Of course I'm not singled out. But maybe I'm the only one who it bothers. ?

There are other things besides dining out that couples neglect to include us singles in. Trips, movies, Bible studies, Sunday School, retreats, sitting next to us in church. For me the one thing that bugs me the most though is the after church meals. A few weeks ago while I stood talking to someone, their group was trying to decide where to go for lunch. I was told, "one day we'll take you somewhere to eat". HELLO? How about today, I like to eat every day.

I have decided lately that I am going to take those things that make me mad and sad and turn them around.

It is to every one's benefit to include us single people in their activities. Then again, do we single people want to be with all these couples?

I'm tired of not being included in 'mom groups' too. Everyone has a group.

I'm an unmarried, non parent and I want my own group. I want those couples to run into us singles at a restaurant and see how fun we can be. I want them to know we have as much to offer as they do. And we like to eat too.

And when I get my singles ministry up and running, we are going to include couples in some of our activities......some. :-)

I think I'll start a "take a single person out to eat" day.

Definition of single......unmarried, uncoupled, children welcomed....simple as that.

It Suddenly Dawned on Me

Have you ever had an epiphany? Sure you have. I had one this morning. I woke up, yawned, stretched and then laid there quietly for a moment and it suddenly dawned on me why I'm where I am in life. Well, one reason that is.

I got up, got my cup of coffee and got on that ever popular website called Facebook. Two big pictures popped up right in front of my eyes to actually confirm my earlier epiphany.

God has been faithful. He has answered my prayers time and time again. And He has even done things for me without my asking. Now that's the kind of man to have around!

But I noticed when I started to get my mind off myself and started praying more for others, I started to be blessed even more. I can't begin to tell you how wonderful friends, old and new, have been to me.

However, there have been people who have greatly disappointed me too. So what did I used to do when disappointments hit me? Cry, moan, gripe, slam things down. I have to admit sometimes I still do some of that. But actually now I pray for whomever has disappointed me. It actually makes me feel better than moaning and groaning. Gotta admit I still cry though.

So, here I am, where I am. I can't get out and go and do on my own like I used to. Not yet. But I can stay at home and pray. So as you go about your day, your life, just remember there is someone praying for you that you may not know all that well. Or someone you do know. Scary thought? Nah, just be thankful.

The Lord is up to something.

Galations 6:9

Holiday Happenings

I'm sitting here eating the chips and dip I bought for New Years Eve. Guess I'm celebrating a little early this year. So I look back on the Christmas holiday and am so thankful for my oldest sister for without her I probably wouldn't have heard from anyone. Then again did anyone hear from me? I am also thankful to have the true meaning of Christmas within my heart and life. Some of my family had a stinky situation to go through on Christmas day. So none of my complaints matter. This year I had two friends that took me shopping on two seperate occasions. Whatever I saw they put in the cart and said "Merry Christmas". I'm thankful for people who enjoy doing things like that! One day I will be able to do the same thing! Back to the chips and dip, maybe I'll have a sandwich to go with it!

Random Jenny Thoughts

Random Thought #1 So I've applied for financial assistance through the hospital.....actually I applied back in June, then again in August for the same hospital bills. Today in the mail I get another application to apply for the same bills. HUH??? I want to be nice about it but I really want to say to them, "Did you loose my other applications??" How many ^ #2 Nothing like politics to heat up a friendship. I've never considered myself Democrat or Republican, I prefer to think of myself as Born Again Christian therefore I lean toward the candidate who has morals. Don't be making it ok to kill unborn and born babies and don't be taking God out of things......... therefore I vote. #3 Brrrrrr #4 I need a haircut!!! #5 God is bigger than the boogyman!

Middle of the night thoughts...........

Yes it is the middle of the night and I'm wide awake. Ok, maybe not wide, but I'm awake. Due to the fact that I was under some anethesia today during a medical procedure, I can not have any meds that cause drowsiness for 24 hours. That includes an allergy pill and I'm going bonkers without one. Itching, sneezing, blowing...well you get the picture. Even though I had a medical procedure done this morning, I had a good day. How can that be? I can only atribute it all to ghe peace of God. Without that, I would have been a slobbering idiot. And all the thanks and praise goes right back to God for the good report I got! It's cold and rainy. I'm drinking a glass of milk and counting the hours until I can take my allergy pill. Then it will make me drowsy during the day instead of night, but that's ok, I can do with a day of rest.

Not So Captivating

Life has not been so captivating these past few months. I admit I jumped the blogship and went to a different site because it was easier and took less time to load the page. But I'm here now, we will see how it goes.